4 SECRETS OF HOW THE MIND WORKS
Your mind works in a very specific way and it will always move you away from pain. Unfortunately, it will allow you to overeat, take drugs or drown your sorrows with alcohol if it feels more like pleasure than the emotional pain it is masking.
THE MIND IS IN FACT VERY SIMPLE
We believe the mind is complex and unfathomable, but in fact, the mind has 4 distinct ways in which it works. In hypnosis, we work with these workings of the mind and reverse negative beliefs and behaviours.
YOUR BRAIN WILL ALWAYS DO WHAT IT THINKS YOU WANT
Your minds job is to give you what you want. If you keep saying to yourself “oh I really don’t want to go to that meeting on Monday” Then the mind will create a cold a headache or an upset tummy for you, so you don’t have to go!
Careful with what you tell your mind you want? I want cake. I love cake, I need cake. I can’t live without cake. I’m always stressed, I need to relax. People stress me. I need time out, I need to lay down, I can’t cope!
How to change it?
TRICK YOUR MIND!
You say to yourself ” I’m really going to nail the meeting. I’m really going shine Monday. I’ve got phenomenal coping skills.”
Your mind will always come up with resistance with anything you hate.
This job is killing me
This commute is stressing me out
I’m snowed under wth this paperwork
My husband is an annoying child!
YOUR BRAIN WILL ALWAYS MOVE YOU AWAY FROM PAIN TO PLEASURE
Your mind will always move you away from pain and make you give up whatever causes you pain. If you say “I hate getting up at 6am. I hate working weekends. I hate socialising,” then your mind will assist you to delete these from your life, but you will likely jeopardise your job and relationships as your mind tries to give you what you want.
“I was in a situation where I kept saying, I’m so tired, I’m so tired. I said it every day for 8 months, on the hour every hour. So my clever mind created me losing my job and I was out of work for 8 months while my body loved relaxing, sleeping in and not having any stress. I was annoyed at the time, but I was getting exactly what I wanted.”
How to change it?
CHOOSE WHAT YOU LINK PAIN AND PLEASURE TO
You say to yourself ” I love getting up at 6 am as it’s an opportunity to get loads done, I love working weekends as this is paying off my credit cards, I love making an effort to socialise as it makes me feel connected.”
FOOD & DRINK ADDICTION
This is often your mind pushing you towards pleasure. The taste of chocolate cake with a cup of tea, right in that moment, there is no pain about your loved one passing, your traumatic childhood, or the idiot that left you. When someone reaches for the cool beer or the red wine, there is no divorce, or job loss or financial problems. Right in these moments, the mind says “I’ll give you pleasure and take you away from pain.”
Chemically, the brain is saturating the cells with dopamine when we receive pleasure from food and drink. It gives a momentary feeling of bliss. When the dopamine returns to it’s natural levels we then crave the food and drink again.
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YOUR BRAIN ONLY RESPONDS TO THE PICTURES AND WORDS IN YOUR HEAD
It’s not the events in our lives but the pictures and words we associate with the experience that matters. The ladybird on your hand is fine but a large beetle is not! A butterfly is fine landing on your arm or even your face, but a moth is not.
Phobias are based on this. For instance, if a dog bit you when young, you will have a fear of dogs. Your mind will associate certain pictures and words in your mind with that event. Even if you logically know a high percentage of dogs never bite, you will still likely avoid dogs during your adult life. Some associations can come later in life, if you were violently ill on seafood one night, that’s it, you cannot eat seafood from that day forward. Before that you loved seafood! Sounds normal but it’s the clever association, not the reality. Your taste buds haven’t changed only your mind has overridden your biology.
How to change it?
CHANGE THE PICTURE AND WORDS.
As in the case of dogs. Imagine nice things about dogs…
Dogs are man’s best friend. They follow you everywhere. When they cuddle up with you. They’re loyal and shower you with love and protect you. They mend broken hearts, they heal people emotionally. Remember when you held your friend’s puppy for the first time. Or you saw newborn pups being born and it was magical and you wanted one oh so badly.
YOUR BRAIN LIKE TO STAY IN WHAT IS FAMILIAR
The mind really wants to stick to what is familiar because it makes us feel safe and familiar is more “likeable” even if it’s bad for us. Familiar allows the brain not to work too hard, it lessens the load as you don’t need to learn something new. Getting up late and watching telly all day eating fast food and no money, can feel strangely good because it’s F.A.M.I.L.I.A.R. Working all day, every day and not stopping and crashing into bed at midnight only to get up and do it again can feel good because it’s familiar. Getting put down in the family can feel acceptable because it is familiar, even though it’s clearly bad for you.
How to change it?
MAKE PRAISE FAMILIAR
“I like working out at 6am as I’m going to get a great body.”
“I like eating green smoothies and giving up junk food because it makes me feel full of energy.”
“I like applying for new job areas, as I’m ready to try something new!
“I love taking time off to get a great work life balance.
“I’m breaking the mould my family has labelled me with, because I’m important enough.”
MAKE CRITISICIM UNFAMILIAR
” I can’t watch telly all day I’m such a slob!”
” I can’t eat junk all day because I’m such a loser!”
” I can’t stay in the same job but I’m not good enough to get anything else.”
” My family thinks I’m stupid, so I guess I must be.”
” I need to work hard every day because I put myself last.”
HAVE A NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MIND
Tell your mind what it wants and be very clear.
I want a good relationship.
I’m good at connecting
I’m a worthy person
I’m ready for a new career.
I’m good at my job.
I am going to be slim and fit.
I’m going to pass my exams
I make good decisions
I am enough
I am loveable
Link pleasure to what you are doing.
I feel blessed being a single parent, as I can develop myself.
I love holding challenging meetings, as I become better every time.
I love working weekends, as I get a sense of productivity.
I love working out, as my body is more attractive.
I love starting my day at 6am as I have a full day.